And in that shame we hide who we really are, or parts of us anyway. Of course, most of us are far too ashamed of how we feel to let anyone else see it, me included. Our desire to feel love is strong, yet can be quite unconscious. So what is this elusive connection? Being seen for how we truly are - all our bad stuff, and being accepted and loved despite it all. Because having people around us does not mean we are connected to them. They may have a partner, a family, friends, but they still feel alone.
I believe there are common themes of what people need to live (over and above physical health, a subsistence wage, food, heat, light etc.): I write it with the benefit of email and feedback from the millions that have visited the website. I am re-writing this page 4½ years after the site was started. These are tough sons of bitches to shift, and even if they are shifting, those shifts can be so small it is hard to notice them. Many people on this site have issues that have origins years or decades ago. Not only when I was suicidal, but many times since. Death only becomes attractive once we lose hope that we can ever feel OK again.įor people that have been struggling with emotional problems for years, perhaps sought and had all types of treatments - from therapy to medications - it is easy to see how they could lose hope that anything will make a difference. It is probably also fair to say, that for these people, given a choice between feeling great about themselves and life generally, or dying, they would probably choose the former. Leaving aside for now those that are terminally ill, it is probably fair to say that most people who are considering killing themselves due to emotional problems, or intolerable life circumstances, have not always felt that way. It just means that you can't see it right now. But here's the thing - even if you don't think there is a solution to your problems right now, that does not mean it does not exist. People think about committing suicide as a solution to a problem they see no solution to. Surely there were other times you felt really low and something happened to make you feel brighter? Seriously - life is changing all the time - yours included. But that also means that something can change to get you away from where you are now. Which means something in your life changed to get you where you are now. Have you always felt like you do right now? The chances are, there were times in your life when you did not. It probably means you are past caring about anybody or anything, and don't believe it's possible to change how you feel right now.
I know because I felt it myself, and I am truly sorry you are in that place. To not be able to face the rest of your life. To feel like there is nothing worth living for. I know what it is like to feel there is no hope left. If you can't, please at least read Surviving today before you go back to looking at ways to kill yourself. I hope you can spare a couple more minutes to read to the end of this page. This is what I use to cover up for the fact that my parents are divorced im fine my parents don't even matter to me anyways.I am glad you are reading this, because if you are, it means that at least some part of you believes there is a chance you can be helped. " im fine!!!!" sam says in a mad tone (but in a sad sort of way)Ī sentence that symbolizes sadness, distress and depression Friend: Hey how is your dogĪ girls definition for "IM NOT FINE PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE ALTHOUGH DON'T ACTUALLY LEAVE ME, I WANT YOU TO ASK ME WHATS WRONG BECAUSE IM BREAKING INSIDE" so when a girl says " i'm fine" yall better know she's either heartbroken and she's mad, or she's just fine. "Im fine" is something a person says when there sad and some on asks what wrong "hey sam whats wrong, are u okay?!?!" So either leave me alone or help me " How are you?" Bf: How are you < 333īasically when a person is not okay but they say this to convince other people that they are "okay" and they do so they are left alone Friend:"Hey, are you okay" When someone says they are fine, most commonly females, it only means one thing: that everything is absolutely not fine. When a girl says" im fine " and your like aight then, and shes like
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